Elopement Etiquette


After going through the process of being engaged, deciding to elope, and eloping, there are a few things that I would like to address.

We will call these things Elopement Etiquette:  How to Treat an Elopement


1. The couple eloping is still a couple getting married. They are still about to start a new life together…they are excited. Be excited for them.

2. Use tact, if you don’t know what that is-don’t speak at all. The couple probably cares what there friends and family have to say, hurtful comments stick around for a long time.

3. Don’t downplay what the couple is doing. Yes, they are eloping. They don’t have to spend $20,000+ to deserve your encouragement, your excitement, or all of the big day perks. Just because the couple is eloping does not make their commitment, their day, or their celebration any less important.

4. Open your mind. If you are harboring any kind of resentment or anger against the couple for eloping, take a step back. Think about what they want, think about if they are happy, think about why you are so upset. Are you being selfish? Don’t let your selfishness ruin their plans.

5. Be there, but be willing to take a step back. Couples who elope do so in many different ways and for many different reasons. It does not mean that they want to keep everyone in the dark about their plans. If they want your help, and if you want to help-be there, be happy. If they need some space, give it to them.

6. Don’t assume the worst. People get married for many different reasons, and people elope for many different reasons. Don’t assume that the couple eloping is doing so for reasons that don’t concern you. Mind your own business and if the couple wants you to know, they will tell you. Until then, take off your cynical hat and assume that they are getting married because they love each other.

What are some things that you would like to see added to the Elopement Etiquette list? Leave a comment below!


I have been debating on posting this post for awhile now. I have consulted with C.J. and asked him if it would be a mistake to post. He encouraged me to go ahead and post it, and I have finally decided to.

There are a few things that I would like to address, now that our elopement and celebration are over.

Please note that I am not intending to offend anyone and I am not referring to any specific people. These are just things that we noticed throughout our process.

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